Making Sense of Ourselves

This blog is where I share reflections on the patterns, feelings, and experiences that shape how we understand ourselves and relate to others. My aim is to write with the same care, honesty, and lack of judgement that I bring to my work as a therapist.

There's no expectation that you'll have things figured out before reading, only an invitation to think a little more clearly about what you're carrying.

A large body of water, possibly a lake, surrounded by forested hills. The sky is clear with a gentle gradient from light to darker teal, and the sun is setting behind the hills on the right side of the image.
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Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?

"I know I can't make everyone happy... so why do I keep trying?"

Many people come to therapy carrying an invisible weight. They find themselves worrying about how others are feeling, anticipating other people's needs, or believing it is somehow their responsibility to keep everyone else calm, happy or comfortable. To smooth the way of others.

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